Sorrento and Capri: The Most Beautiful Places

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I love nature and architecture, so when I think of beauty, I think of these things.

In 2022, I toured Italy with my husband Bob. The first stop was Sorrento where we stayed at Excelsior Vittoria Sorrento, a gorgeous hotel on the Bay of Naples.

I don’t remember what the room looked like, but I remember the large veranda that overlooked a patio of the hotel and the crystal blue water. The patio had lounge chairs and a table and chairs. On each pillar around the edge were pots of red geraniums. Across the water, Mount Vesuvius rose to the sky and the Atlantic Ocean stretched out to the west.

I sat at the little table with my diary and wrote descriptions of the view. It was a magical setting.

One morning we woke up early to take a tour of the Blue Grotto, a cave in the cliffs that was nearby in Capri. When the bus dropped us off at the edge of the cliffs, we climbed down some rickety iron stairs and crawled into little touring boats that were being rowed by husky Italian saliors.

The tide was high that day, so we had to lie down in the boat as we entered the cave’s entrance. Once inside, however, we were surrounded by the most beautiful cobalt blue water, clear and luminous in the light from the cave’s doorway.

The saliors rowed the boats around the interior of the cave and sang to us. Their voices echoed through the halls of the cavern.

My Passion for Flowers

My first recollection of flowers was when I was ten and my family lived in the countryside in England. Across the road from our house was a forest which, that spring, was carpeted in bluebells.

I took my family’s scrub bucket into those woods, squatted down in the middle of the bluebells, and picked them. Milky juice squirted out of their stalks and trailed down my arms, making me sticky from hand to shoulder. When the bucket was full, I took it back home into the kitchen, knelt down to find my mother’s vases, and cut the bluebells’ stems to fit into them. Soon all the vases were full, but I found some quart Mason jars and filled them, too. Then, I put a vase of flowers on every bookcase and dresser in the house. My mother smiled when she saw them.

I love flowers. Flowers in my garden. Flowers in vases. The floral department in the grocery store. Flower fabrics and clothes. Flower pillows and bedspreads. Flower photographs and paintings. I just can’t get enough of them. Let me describe how my fascination with flowers has made my world beautiful.

Flowers Connect Me to My Mother

My mother loved flowers, too. Her name was Rose Marie and her favorite flower was a rose. When she lived in an assistant living facility near the end of her life, I brought her a bouquet of roses every time I visited. After my visit was over and I went back home, she would call me to tell me how the flowers were doing, when she had watered them, and where she had placed them in her studio.

But my mother had demonstrated her love for flowers all through my childhood. While we lived in England, she planted tulip and daffodil bulbs in front of our living room window. In spring, those bulbs bloomed like happy children and made our simple home bright and cheery.

When we moved back to California, my parents planted flowers all over their property. They took out the front yard grass and planted daffodils under the trees. Some of the trees were orange trees, and the combination of the yellow daffodils and the oranges was striking.

Easter lilies were planted in the back yard so that they would bloom for the Easter season, which was important to my family. Azaleas were planted in the shade, and my parents planted camelia bushes all along the patio railing. They bloomed all winter like red, pink, and white Christmas ornaments hanging amongst the glossy leaves. My mother would often comment on the camelias during our phone calls. Their buds were out. They were just about to bloom. They were in full bloom. One bush was white and the next was red. The humming birds liked them. We could have a whole conversation about her flowers.

A Flower Library

I’m an avid reader and have a library in my house. In my library, are books that I used during my teaching career such as the plays of William Shakespeare, The Norton Anthology of African American Literature, poems by Robert Frost, and the novels of more contemporary authors such as Toni Morrison and Tara Westover. But I’m retired now, and I’m starting a new collection of books based on the theme of flowers.

I was inspired to start a library about flowers when I read an article about Martha Stewart’s flower library. In the magazine, I found a picture of her bright book room with books stacked on mismatched tables around the perimeter and in the middle of the room. Every wall was filled with windows above the tables, making the room fabulous for reading. The books themselves were beautiful covered with photographs of roses, azaleas, and bouquets of every kind.

Now that I’m retired, I have more time for gardening, and, this summer, I’m in the middle of re-designing my front and back yards. To do this right, I bought a book about hydrangeas so I can do what I need to do so they grow healthy and vibrant. I also bought a book about 300 varieties of tea roses since I’m going to plant six new rose bushes along my new western fence. Oh yes, I also bought a book about French flower arrangements that I have displayed in my French décor living room.

Flowers, Flowers, Everywhere in the House

As soon as people step into my home, they learn how obsessed I am with flowers. In the living room, I am using three artificial flower arrangements to create a beautiful ambiance. Currently, I also have a vase filled with over a dozen red, yellow, and white roses from my own rose bushes in the back yard. I have bouquets of artificial flowers in each of the three bedrooms, flower urns in the library, and a real Christmas cactus in the family room. My bedroom walls all have pictures of flowers in them. The guest room, which also has a French theme, has a photograph of a flower vendor shop in Paris.

Flowers, Not Chocolate

Here’s a secret. I can be bribed, not with chocolates, but with flowers. When anyone gives me flowers, my heart melts like a warm candle. My husband gives me roses and sometimes other types of flowers on Christmas, my birthday, and Valentine’s Day. I love each and every bouquet as if it is the only bouquet I’ve ever received.

My daughter gives me flowers often because she loves flowers too. Her favorite flower is the Gerber Daisy. When I want to get her some blooms, I look first for those.

The most beautiful flowers I have ever received, however, were pink roses from my son. The pink was so delicate and the roses were incredible as buds and astonishing when they were fully bloomed. I took photo after photo of them, and, now, I have two photographs of these roses upstairs. My heart skips a beat whenever I see them.

I’m inspired by beauty and that’s why I love flowers. This afternoon, I plan to read more about how to perfect hydrangeas and how to promote more blooms on all my blossoming plants. You can find me sitting in my garden amongst my flowers. Where else?

How French Chickens Saved My Roses

A few months ago, I was touring through the gardens of Chateau Chenonceau in the Loire Valley in France with my husband. A guide had told us that the chateau used organic gardening methods for all the plants. As I walked past the gorgeous rose bushes, I wondered how the gardeners made them so healthy and beautiful. They had no black spot disease, no pests, and their blooms were vibrant and vigorous. What was their secret?

As I was about to leave the gardens, I saw a man leaning over a rose bush while sprinkling something brown around its base. Nearby, leaning up against an ancient stone urn next to his wheelbarrow, were two bags of coquilles caocao. I have had enough French training to know that the bags were full of chicken manure, and he was fertilizing the roses with them. This momentary experience transformed me from a chemical rose grower to an organic rose gardener with much better results. Here’s how I care for my roses now, and they have never been more beautiful.

Chicken Manure

I have roses under the window in my front yard, on my side yard, all along the lawn in the back, and a raised bed of my prized tea roses on the other side of the house. I’ve fertilized them, sprayed them, clipped them and I’ve always had problems. As soon as I got home from France, I bought six bags of chicken manure and spread it at the base of every rose bush. I was smelly. The mosquitoes seemed to like it, too, and they bit both me and my husband. I drank wine in my lawn chair with the smell in my nostrils. But it was worth it. Slowly, day by day, the rose bushes became stronger and their diseases cleared up. I didn’t use the fertilizer or disease control liquid at all. The chicken manure, which contains large amounts of nitrogen, phosphorus, and potassium, revitalized my roses all by themselves. And that smell, it’s gone now.

Vinegar Water

It took several days to almost two weeks for the chicken manure nutrients to be absorbed by the rose bushes, and while that was happening, some of the rose bushes had mildew. I did some research and found another organic solution to this problem. In an empty spray bottle, I combined a quarter of a cup of apple cider vinegar and one quart of water and sprayed it on the mildewed leaves of stems. I kept this container of solution near my tea roses so it was easy to use whenever I found problems. It worked. Now, two months after first applying the chicken manure and spraying the mildewed stalks and leaves, my roses are as healthy as the roses at Chateau Chenonceau.

Bone Meal Fertilizer

I was on a roll, and I kept reading about organic gardening for roses. What I found out next is that bone meal is good for promoting blooms. Its phosphorus and calcium strengthen the plant and promote bloom growth. I applied the bone meal, and low and behold, my roses staring producing more roses that ever before. I also gave some bone meal to my African irises, and they gave me the most beautiful white, yellow and purple irises I had ever seen. I only have to apply bone meal every four months since it releases its nutrients over time.

Clipping Old Blooms

I have known that a good rose gardener should clip off the old roses in order to preserve the rose plants energy for the new blooms, but when my plants were diseased and ugly, I had little incentive to do this. In the last two months, however, I’m excited to take a pair of sharp clippers and to snip off the spent flowers, making sure that I cut the stalk just above a five-pattern of leaves. While I’m clipping the old blooms, I also clip the vibrant flowers to take into the house to enjoy in a vase on the table.

I never expected that my life would be changed by walking through an ancient garden in France. Even though my roses didn’t go to France with me, I brought them back something better than a souvenir: healthier lives.

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How to Look Good in Every Selfie

Everyone is taking selfies these days, including me. The problem is, I don’t always like how I look. To improve my appearance in this modern practice, I decided to investigate how I can look my best every single time. My solutions are not earth-shattering, but I think there are people out there that could use some tips. The answer to great selfies is to use props that bring out your best physical qualities or at least cover up what you don’t like. Here are the solutions that I’ve found.

Use the Ocean as a Background

Every picture of me taken at the beach with the ocean in the background is a stunner. My hair is golden. My skin is smooth and clear of blemishes, and my smile always shines. Apparently, the grey-blues and white foam of the ocean waves complement every shade of skin and hair color. Even when my hair is blowing directly across my face, I look young and adventurous, wild and free. Doesn’t everyone want to look like that?

Wear a Pair of Sunglasses

I’ve discovered why movie stars wear sun glasses in so many of their photos. Sunglasses cover up squinty, little, cross-eyed, or tired eyes. I, for example, have small eyes that turn into half-moons when I smile too hard or when the sun is blazing into my face. When I put on a pair of sunglasses, however, I can make my eyes as big as I want and change the color from green to luscious brown. Depending on what I’m wearing, I can imitate any celebrity from a rock star to a sultry soap opera actress.

Put On a Hat

I know a professor who is bald on top of his head. He wears a beret hat every day, all day, and, instead of people thinking about how bald he is, they notice his charming hat and admire his taste. I’m not bald, but I do have bad hair days when my cowlicks decide to stick straight up. If I’m taking a photo on one of those days, I just cover my hair with a floppy hat and paste my bangs to my forehead with a wet comb. Using this technique at the beach makes so much sense.

Wear Pink

O.K. Not everyone looks good in pink, but I do. It’s my best color, so, when I know I’m going to be in a photo, I wear it. My husband looks great in medium blue. My daughter looks great in orange, and my son looks best in deep red. Everyone compliments you when you’re wearing the color that looks best on you. Pay attention next time and wear that color for your next selfie.

Add a Dog to the Picture

Even people who don’t own dogs love them. Adding a dog to the photograph will distract anyone from noticing your crooked smile, squinty eyes, the pimples on your chin, or the ear that’s missing an earring. They won’t be looking at you at all since your dog will capture their heart with her floppy ears, mischievous eyes, or pug nose.

If all else fails and you still don’t like the selfie you took, I recommend that you keep it anyway. File it on your laptop and don’t look at it for a few years. When you finally do, you’ll love seeing how young you looked back then.